About the Counselling Sessions

About the Counselling SessionsSome clients do feel nervous about coming to a counselling session. So it may help to know that in the first session I will take some details about the difficulties you are facing and we decide together whether the service would be right for you. In that first session the main thing is for you to make sure you feel comfortable with me and the setting and it is my job to help you feel at ease. Clients are often surprised at how easy they find it to talk in that first session and how the time flies.

I offer both daytime and evening appointments for individual and couples counselling.

The fee is £50 per session for individual counselling and each appointment will last 50 minutes.

The fee is £60 per session for couples counselling. Each appointment will last 1hr.

How Sally works with clients

I use a framework of Transactional Analysis in my work with clients and integrate concepts and practices from Mindfulness and EMDR (Eye-Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing) where appropriate and only with the clients agreement. I have found that my clients can easily relate and apply the key concepts and practices of these models and they help us to work together to answer the questions ‘Why do I feel like this?’ and ‘How can I change or accept this?’

Transactional Analysis provides a way of getting to know your personality; understanding your relationships and communication with others and your automatic reactions to emotional problems and stressful situations. It has been described as offering a Theory of Personality based on the concept of  ‘Parent’, ‘Adult’ and ‘Child’ ego-states; a Theory of Communication and a Theory of Personal Development which provides an insight into how we develop psychologically from a child to an adult.

Mindfulness is best described as:

‘paying attention on purpose moment by moment without judging, (Full Catastrophe Living, – Jon Kabat-Zinn).’

I will often introduce Mindfulness concepts and exercises into our sessions as a way of helping you to spend more time in your Adult ego state; ‘turn up the volume’ on your Nurturing Parent ego state and ‘turn down’ your Critical Parent ego state. Through mindfulness, you can learn how to accept yourself and experience the present moment, non-judgementally. It has been clinically proven that by adopting a mindful approach to life you can better manage stress and stop the struggle of  constantly worrying about the future; self -destructively linking past experience to present and criticizing or suppressing what you think, feel or do. Hence it is being widely used in the NHS for issues such as anxiety and depression with very successful results.

Eye-Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy is best described as:

'EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a psychotherapy that enables people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are the result of disturbing life experiences.  Repeated studies show that by using EMDR therapy people can experience the benefits of psychotherapy that once took years to make a difference. It is widely assumed that severe emotional pain requires a long time to heal.  EMDR therapy shows that the mind can in fact heal from psychological trauma much as the body recovers from physical trauma.
There has been so much research on EMDR therapy that it is now recognized as an effective form of treatment for trauma and other disturbing experiences by organizations such as the American Psychiatric Association, the World Health Organization and the Department of Defense and is used in the NHS to treat trauma. Given the worldwide recognition as an effective treatment of trauma, you can easily see how EMDR therapy would be effective in treating the “everyday” memories that are the reason people have low self-esteem, feelings of powerlessness, and all the myriad problems that bring them in for therapy. Over 100,000 clinicians throughout the world use the therapy.  Millions of people have been treated successfully over the past 25 years.' (EMDR Institute)

I will introduce the option of using EMDR therapy at certain points in my work with clients if we identify that there is a traumatic memory that is impacting life in the present; a phobia that is restricting a clients lifestyle or a self-limiting or negative belief about self that is holding them back in life.

In essence, my aim is to work with clients to offer another perspective on what you feel, think and do and give you tools to learn new ways to feel, think and be and support you in integrating those tools into your life.