Relationship CounsellingAt Catalyst Counselling I offer relationship counselling to help couples work through their relationship issues.
Through relationship counselling, couples get an insight into their unhelpful or destructive habits that are damaging their relationship and learn how to break out of their habitual ways of responding and treating each other so that the relationship becomes more fulfilling for both partners
Some reasons that couples might come to Catalyst Counselling for relationship counselling are:
- To help rekindle the closeness and intimacy in their relationship, which is particularly common in couples with young children.
- To help adjust to life as a couple when their children have left home.
- To find a way to deal with the aftermath of finding out a partner is having an affair or they don’t feel able to trust their partner.
- To resolve parenting differences over children and step-children.
- Sometimes as a proactive measure to strengthen their relationship rather than waiting until an issue occurs.
- Sometimes to help a couple agree on the future of their relationship and where necessary to provide a safe, facilitated environment for them to negotiate and compromise on how a separation will work.
In relationship counselling I help couples assess their levels of compatibility; closeness; caring and co-operation (willingness to work at resolving issues) and identify which of these areas they feel they need to work on. Then I facilitate the couple in communicating and negotiating what each partner needs and are willing to do to fill the gap in that area of their relationship. This is where the homework comes in! The couple will be invited to practice the new ways of doing things between sessions and report back in the next session.
The aim being to help couples:
- Learn how to say ‘I need ….’ to each other.
- Learn listening skills so that each partner gets equal ‘air-time’ and are heard by their partner.
- Learn the rules of fair fighting. How to disagree and say ‘That’s not ok’ without it escalating to an unproductive and unnecessarily hostile argument.
- Find a way to compromise that meets both partners needs